Eyes wide, lashes beating against my forehead (thanks lash extensions!), my dark baby browns stare my rejection dead in the face—head on, whatever it is. My smile becomes lopsided-a smirk—not quite a frown… at least yet. Why? Because I was expecting it anyway. I set myself up for the rejection; just praying for the 1% chance it wouldn’t be, so the blow isn’t as harsh. Newsflash: it always stings.
Ever feel like you keep putting yourself out there only to get the same bad results every time? Let’s say you are a mom trying to get your toddler to eat vegetables and you disguise them in the sauce but your toddler screams “yucky!” and spits them all over her highchair. So then what do you do? The next day, you try the same thing but a different dish, with the same “yucky” “spit” result. You will also probably try it again the day after. It could be because motherhood and insanity are by definition the same things–obviously.
Look I am a fighter, I fight for what I believe in, but when enough times you don’t get positive feedback, you may start feeling like a failure. When do you give up? Never! Then when you keep trying, doing, trying it again and again you may have what Oprah coined an “Aha!” moment—I had this yesterday. This became my “Holy sh!t, I am Sue Heck” moment. Why? Well, for those who aren’t familiar with The Middle, Sue is the lovable character who puts herself out there and fails spectacularly every single time, but none the less never stops trying. That is us, mamas—we are all Sue Heck’s!
Do I want to be like that? Sometimes. Unlike Sue, I am not an eternal optimist who doesn’t get deterred in the face of adversity. Let’s be real, most of us aren’t cheerful optimists to the Sue-extreme, so the outcome isn’t so “oh well”. I mean I have never met a person so unaffected quite like Sue! While she quickly rebounds with her next grandiose idea, I unfortunately can’t. After a while, I do what my almost two year old would do—throw a tantrum of epic proportions or sulk.
But yet as moms, we keep trying and trying because we have bigger goals then just our pride: our kids. We want them to be healthy and thriving individuals so we put that beyond our sanity. And you know what? The one thing to love about Sue is that one day she will make her mark because she won’t give up and that will be us—and because we worked so hard our victory will be even sweeter.
So mama, when your toddler does one day eat your healthy cooking or actually goes to the bathroom on the potty—those are the days when you think, “it’s good to be Sue Heck.” When you’re a mom being a Sue will eventually pay off and like the Heck clan, your whole family will love you because of your dedication and heart.